It is beginning to make sense. Life is not happenstance.  Things happen when we make way for things to happen.  Effort, a simple six letter word is such a powerful word that without it (Effort) one can only wish.
If wishes were horses, beggars would ride.
Woulda,  Coulda, Shoulda does not cut it.  Put in the effort it takes to make it happen and continue as you experience the desired result.
Woulda, shoulda, coulda  means regret.

Doublemindedness, proscrastination, are all enemies to success.

Happy reading.
Margaret